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Hey!

How are you? No, seriously, are you good?

Can I start this post by sharing something I read recently?

1. Relax your brows
2. Let your tongue fall from the roof of your mouth
3. Unclench your jaw
4. Let your shoulders fall away from your ears

Don’t you feel more relaxed? I am.

Anyway, I realise I have neglected my blog AGAIN. How is time moving so fast? I swear, I blink and a month has passed. I’ll have grey hairs by the time I stop binging every series available on Netflix.

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So, while it feels like no time at all since I last updated this blog, it’s actually been months – but I’ve still been writing. You know me (unless it’s your first time here – in which case, run while you can) if I’m not writing, I feel absolutely useless. So please, allow me to catch you up on my latest ramblings.

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Dear, sweet summertime of 2018 is reaching its end (having said that, it’s August and is already looking miserable as f*ck, so maybe it’s already ended). Anyway, I still remember the start of summer so clearly – it marked the start of Ramadan, a holy month for Muslims where we abstain from all the things we usually take for granted from sunrise to sunset. It’s a real test of mental strength and is a great detoxing process of the body, cleansing everything from your blood to your mind. And no, you can’t even drink water in those hours.

This year I really struggled to get through it – I was having a hard time with my mental health and I beat myself up about it alot. So I wrote about battling depression during Ramadan and why ultimately, the best thing you can do is be kind to yourself.

Read my article ‘Battling Depression During Ramadan’ on Gal-Dem here. 

 

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Speaking of Gal-Dem, I wrote something else for them which was scary to write, but one of the things I am most proud to have written, because microaggressions are real and I was sick of being made to feel I was mad. The reality is, being a WoC in England can be tough. You become highly attuned to the energy of those around you for the sake of self-preservation. I wrote about how I am made to feel on public transport sometimes, and I was so touched at the response I got. So many women empathised. If you have read it, thank you. If you haven’t, you can read it here.

Read ‘Being a Woman of Colour on Public Transport’ via Gal-Dem now.

 

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I don’t know if you knew this, but I used to wear a hijab. I loved it for how it made me feel, but I didn’t feel ready to represent Islam in such a public way, so I felt like the most respectful thing was to take it off while I discovered who I was and got certain (admittedly haram) things out of my system… I wrote about it for MuslimGirl, an awesome website based in the US.

Read a Love Letter to the Hijab I Removed here.

 

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Forever a frizz ball…

Let’s talk about hair, bay-bee. How is yours? Mine is coarse, frizzy and dry, thanks to my bleaching the living hell out of it. Everytime I go to hairdressers on the high street I feel like they don’t understand how to style or cut my hair… unless I pay an extortionate amount to see the highest qualified person. Whether you’re from Syria or Sri Lanka there’s a chance you might have experienced the same thing – which begs the question – why do we not have any swanky salons dedicated to our hair type (that I know of)?

Read ‘Hair-Raising’ here.

 

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I know a lot of LGBTQ people. Some of them are happily married, some of them are single in Soho living their best lives, some of them are still coming to terms with who they are, and some of them have spent their life trying to deny who they are. It’s a tough job trying to accommodate your faith, family and culture with your sexual identity. I wrote a piece of fiction based on all the love, passion and painful stories I have heard over the years, covering the conflict in something that should be so easy – love.

Read ‘In a Closet of Dreams’ here.

 

I think I’ve left you with enough of my ramblings! Until next time, baby girl.

Love, Maz x

Bleaching Dark Hair For Dummies

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Like a lot of women, when I need change in my life, I’ll express it with my hair. When I’m hurt, I have to fight the urge to cut it off. And when life delivers uncertainties I want my hair to help me feel fearless – and I suppose that is where I have been, of recent.

5 Life Lessons From Jim Carrey

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Today I want to share some words that do not belong to me. Sometimes you hear something so inspiring, so uplifting, it has to be shared.

I know we are in a world where if you’re not present to witness a moment happening, you’re late. Well, this speech was made in 2014 so by that standard I am decades behind, ha.

But anyways, I was watching random YouTube videos and came across Jim Carrey giving a speech to graduating students, and a lot of what he said changed my mentality for the better – at least until I went to sleep that night. I keep reminding myself of select quotes that affected me the most, so why not just put them here?

Writing that Changed Me: Mona Eltahawy

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This week I want to talk about a reporter, an author, a revolutionary – a big inspiration of mine. I first saw Mona Eltahawy in 2014 on Al Jazeera, fiercely debating a question based upon her infamous article on Foreign Policy: Do Arab Men Hate Women?

The Time I Hung Up On Trey Songz

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Now let it be said that I am not a professional journalist. I barely came out of high school with any GCSEs, since I spent most of the time bunking off school with my bum-ass ex boyfriend. I blagged my way into college (okay, I begged) and just about made it out. Jesus, I’m not painting a good picture of myself. Basically, I have never been academic.

What I Wish I’d Written: Mikala Monsoon

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I wish I wasn’t an anxiety ridden introvert – I’d host a monthly salon, where all my favourite creative voices from the internet and beyond could have a meeting of minds. We’d change the world if we shed the doubt that mundane, relentless adulthood has a way of beating into us. The benefit of expanding your emotional and creative intelligence has become so underrated in a world of capitalism and rushing to work and scrolling through an endless sea of digital nonsense and never having time for anything because we’re all oh-so-busy competing to be the most productive – but what are we doing it all for?

What I Wish I’d Written: Yrsa Daley-Ward

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I appreciate that recycling words by other people is what Tumblr is for (isn’t it? I actually don’t understand Tumblr), but sometimes I find literary pieces that inspire me so much, I just want to share them with you guys. Almost like a poetry club, because I have no friends to do a real life one with, ok? Cool, let’s do it.

Frida Kahlo on being strange

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I’ve been obsessed with Frida Kahlo for as long as I can remember and I always want to write about why – but so complex is her lingering aura that remains, I can’t find the right words yet. Anyways, I saw this quote that is allegedly from an extract of her diary and it really resonated with me, so I wanted to share it regardless.

The DIY Hair Bleaching Virgin

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I wanted to write about my hair journey as a DIY bleach virgin because a few people have asked, and I know when I was researching about it online I couldn’t find a great deal. I’m certainly not an expert, but here’s my experience…

I’ve always been into half blonde, half black look – like the two-face look. I still don’t know what it’s called, technically. But I spotted a woman outside a restaurant sporting the look and she looked straight flawless, so I decided to go for it.